|a few questions
||[Jul. 10th, 2008|08:04 pm]
Nursing while pregnant, Nursing two, or more
I'm still nursing my 22 month old and expecting a new bebe in about three weeks. For those of you who tandem nurse a toddler and newborn (or have) how do you ensure that your newborn is getting their needs met? Do you designate a breast for each child? Let the newborn nurse first always? I expect to do a lot of nursing them at the same time. My son is very clingy and possessive of his na-nas so I'd like to let him nurse while his sister nurses. I'm just a little unsure of what I'm doing!|
I also had a foremilk/hindmilk imbalance with him the first month or so. Is it likely that I will encounter the same thing when my milk comes in?
This might not be overly helpful for you, but here's my response:
I had no problems nursing my daughter (eldest - 25 months when my son was born), but my nursing relationship with my son has been strained due to some unresolved latch issues. Because he's a poor latcher, I've not been able to tandem feed them as I need both hands to keep him on in a pain-free way. Having said that, I always nurse him first, and then I nurse her if she asks for it. There is only the odd time that she wants to nurse when he needs to nurse, and while she has tears about not being able to nurse immediately, she perks up as soon as she's able to do so. In addition, she's now learned some patience. Because I've been consistant in following through on promising to nurse her after her brother, she's become a lot less insistant about nursing "right now". By nursing him first, I'm confident that I'm meeting his needs.
If you do get engorged though, it's not a bad thing to nurse the eldest first to take some of the pressure off... it makes it easier for the newborn to latch.
I'm afraid I can't comment on the foremilk/hindmilk imbalance, as I do not know!
When I was just making cholostrum I would let the newborn nurse first. When my milk came in it tended to be the newborn nursing first as he wanted to nurse more often. I tried not to give him the full breast all the time cos I have a tendancy for oversupply and he was ending up with the classic green poo and poorly tummy.
I didn't really have a system of one breast per child although it tended towards that at times. I tended to nurse them individually as I could keep my toddler's latch on properly. If she left to her own devices she'd kind of hang off the nipple which certainly wasn't fun!
My kids are 26 months apart, and i'm still nursing them both (though i'm nursing my son, Cameron, who is almost 3, less often these days).
In the first little while after Claire was born, Cameron was nursing maybe once or twice a day. I honestly didn't put too much thought into nursing strategies - i just typically only nursed Cameron after Claire had had a good feed. Sometimes he'd point to my boobies and say, this one is Claire's boobie, and this one is my boobie, which was pretty cute. However, Cameron's nursing requirements didn't drain the boobs by far, so Claire nursed from both sides. There was no "side designation" - i just started her on whatever boob was the one that was fuller.
I have had them nurse at the same time, but i find it a bit awkward and uncomfortable, so i don't do it that often.
Hope that helps. :)